925 English Lesson 3 - How to Keep a Conversation Going

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Hi Tim here with another 925 English lesson. Last time we had a look at how to

start a conversation. In this lesson we're going to learn how to keep a

conversation going. After all there's no point in striking up a conversation with

someone if you can't keep it going. But what does that involve? I mean it's more

than just asking and answering questions right? So what kinds of things can we say

or do to make the conversation flow naturally? Well one important way that we

keep a conversation going

is by showing interest in what someone says.

If the person makes a comment about something like the weather or work,

you need to respond with interest.

So what can we say to show we are interested?

Well there are a few ways we can do this. First you can give an expression of

interest like 'really' or 'is that right'. Then you can make a comment or a

question about it. You might also just pick out one idea that the person

mentioned and make a little question about it. Let's practice some examples of

showing interest in this way.

Listen to each example then repeated yourself. Ready? Let's get started!

Is that right? Wow, I hear it's beautiful this time of year.

No kidding! That must be such an exciting job.

Oh really! That must have been amazing

Is that right? So then what did he say?

Okay, so showing interest is important but how does it sound in real life?

Let's listen to a short dialogue between two travelers. They're talking about where

they are 'headed' or traveling to.

And where you headed? Home to seoul if we ever get out of here.

South Korea, hey? Never been but I've heard great things. You like it there?

Yeah for sure. You know it's a big crazy city with lots happening.

Did you hear the expression of interest there? One person mentioned he is going

to Seoul and the other person invited more information about that topic.

And you might notice that in a casual conversation like this we don't talk too

long about one thing before giving the other person a chance to talk.

And now's a good time to give you a chance to talk. So let's try a little practice.

We'll repeat the dialogue but this time we're going to beep out the response that

shows interest. You will have to say that part. Remember that to show interest we

make a little comment and then ask a question. Here we go.

And where you headed?

Home to seoul we ever get out of here.

Yeah for sure. You know it's a big crazy city with lots happening.

Nice work! Now a conversation doesn't just continue on one topic forever right? At some point

the speakers change the subject but you can't just suddenly start talking about

something different that would be strange because natural conversation

flows; it doesn't jump around.

So exactly how do we change the subject?

Well you need a little transition. Just a little word or expression that means

"hey let's talk about something different now" That might be just a word like now or it

might be a phrase like by the way.

Let's practice changing the subject with a few examples. Remember to repeat what you hear.

Ready? Let's give it a try.

Speaking of summer, how does our third quarter look?

Oh before I forget, are you going on the trip next month?

By the way, did I tell you that we're headed to Hawaii at Christmas?

And you? Has it been a good month?

As you can see you can change the subject to several different topics.

You might want to move the conversation toward work or to recent events or to travel plans.

Or, if you think you've talked a lot about yourself, you might

want to change the topic to the other person.

So as we've seen conversation

flows from topic to topic and back and forth between people but what about

ending a conversation? What do you say when you want to draw it to a close?

Well all you need is some kind of excuse or reason for leaving. Maybe you need to

use the restroom or make a phone call. And when you give your excuse you can

introduce it with something like "I should" or "I need to."

Let's practice some examples of ending a conversation.

Once again, repeat the examples after you hear them. Ready?

It's been nice chatting but I suppose I should go find my seat.

It's getting pretty late and I should really be heading home.

If you'll excuse me, I just need to make a quick call.

Well, I shouldn't leave my husband sitting there alone for too long.

Okay, now how about listening to how ending a conversation works in real life?

Let's listen to the end of a conversation between two people chatting

at an office party.

So you live here in the city then? Yeah in Delgado Is that right? I've got a

cousin in that area. Pretty nice. And convenient Indeed lovely place.

Well Shelly it's great to talk but I've got to go and freshen up and find a table.

Maybe run into you later

So did you hear how that worked?

Amber said she needed to freshen up which is a nice way for a woman to say

she needs to use the restroom. And she started by saying "it's great to talk"

which we often used to indicate that the conversation is coming to an end before

we give an excuse to leave.

Now it's your turn to practice.

We'll repeat the dialogue but will beep out the end of the conversation.

You can fill that in

yourself by saying it was nice to talk and then giving any excuse to leave.

Ready? Here we go.

Is that right? I've got a cousin in that area. Pretty nice. And convenient.

All right! Now that we've looked at how to end a conversation, it's time for us

to end this lesson.

Besides learning how to end a conversation we've looked at

some ways of keeping it going by showing interest or changing the subject

We'll be back soon with another 925 English lesson. Until then so long and

happy learning!