5 Advanced English Conversation Tips (See #4 for My Embarrassing Secret)

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- Here are five tips

for more advanced English conversation

but first, roll that intro.

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Good morning, good afternoon

or good evening, depending on where you,

my friend, happen to be

in this big wide world of ours right now.

It is very much morning here in Tokyo.

I am Julian Northbrook

and this is Doing English.

Wanna sound more advanced

when you have your English conversations?

Sure, you do

and that is what I'm here today,

my friend, to help you with.

Here are five tips, five things

that you can do to sound more advanced

in your English conversations.

First and foremost,

know that advanced speakers

are not advanced because they learned advanced English,

but because they have an advanced command

over the basic English.

A big mistake that a lot of people make

is thinking that in order to be advanced,

to have advanced English conversations,

they have to be having conversations

about difficult stuff,

using big, complicated, clever sounding words

and difficult grammar patterns,

but this doesn't make you advanced.

People who come across as extraordinary speakers

of English are people who have

not a basic command of advanced English,

but have an advanced command over basic English.

Point number two, be interesting.

This is another thing that people miss,

but in order to speak a language well,

you need three things.

You need the language, of course.

You need the phrases and expressions

that you need to express the things

that you want to express

if you're gonna speak the language.

And yes, using the language in interesting ways

is an important part of being advanced

when you speak and we're

gonna talk more about that

in a moment in points three, four and five.

But no matter how many interesting phrases

and expressions, good bits of language

that you have, if you don't have

anything interesting to say,

cuz' you're a boring old fart

who does nothing but sits around

at home all day watching TV,

then well, you ain't gonna be interesting anyway.

Point number three, make your speaking pop.

One of the things, no the only thing, of course,

but one of the things that really shows you up

as an English learner,

as somebody who is speaking English

as a second language and who

is still trying to improve,

is that you may be overusing dry, boring, stale language.

In an way, it's understandable

because as a second language speaker,

we get so caught up with worrying

about the surface level stuff.

Am I making a grammatically correct sentence?

Is this the right word in this context?

Is my pronunciation okay?

Is my accent difficult to understand?

We get so caught up with these things

that we tend to default to safe language,

but safe language is often quite dry

and quite boring.

Take for example this example

from Extraordinary English Speaker,

Season two, episode 22.

The story is called,

Bring Your Own Bottle,

and it's about one of our regular characters, John,

who is off to a party.

He needs to take a bottle of wine with him,

so, he's just run to the off licence

in the pouring rain

and bought a bottle of wine.

Since him and his flight mate, Alec,

have had a particularly tough day,

he bought a second one to take back

with him and have a glass

at home with Alec.

But when they open the wine

and try a glass, John realises

that the wine that he's just bought is nasty.

It is not as he expected,

a nice bottle of wine.

Now, in this kind of situation,

you might try the wine and say,

"oh, this doesn't taste good."

"Oh, this is not a good wine."

And that would be fine,

but it's a bit dry,

It's a bit boring.

Instead, John tries the wine and says,

"mmm, this is a cheeky little number, isn't it?"

To which Alec responds,

"you mean it tastes like old socks?"

The point is, it's the way

that they describe the wine.

Instead of just saying

this is bad wine,

John uses a bit of irony.

Oh, this is a cheeky little number, isn't it?

And Alec uses an analogy,

tastes like old socks.

It means this is bad wine.

It doesn't taste good,

but it's said in a way

that is not only more interesting

but conjures up more vivid images

of just how bad this wine is

for the listener.

Closely connected to this then, number four.

Play with the language.

In the same way as one of the things

that shows you up as a non-native speaker

is that you overuse dry, boring language.

Non-native speakers, people learning English

tend to be way too oversensitive to

the grammatical accuracy of the things

that we and you are saying.

Again, I get it.

We're so caught up with worrying about,

am I speaking incorrect English?

Am I making mistakes?

Am I looking stupid by screwing up the language,

that we default to this safe language

and we try very very hard

to speak in very grammatical, mistake free ways.

Whereas native speakers,

on the other hand,

don't really give a shit about that stuff.

And we often purposely manipulate the language

and use purposely ungrammatical language to

emphasise things to make what we're saying

more interesting and to really highlight points.

You may not know this about me

and this is a little bit embarrassing,

but I am a secret Sex and the City fan.

Yeah, yeah, I know, I know.

You probably just want to unsubscribe

from this channel now,

but check out this clip from Season one, Episode 10

of Sex and the City.

- I'm in total ovary overload.

Which kind do I get?

- Here, this one says sale, half off.

- Sweetie, I just spent $395.00 on a pair

of open toed Gucci's last week.

This is not the place to be frugal.

- Alright.

- What about this one?

- Oh, First Response.

I remember First Response.

I had a very reassuring moment once

with First Response.

- Oh.

- Here's hoping.

(woman speaking over PA system)

- What if I am?

- If you am, you am.

- I don't think I'd be very good at this.

- Do you see what Miranda did there?

The context here, the story

is that Carrie thinks she might be pregnant

and she's gonna take a pregnancy test,

but she's worried to do it

because she can't decide whether she

would be happy or not happy if it turns out

that she's pregnant.

Is she ready?

She doesn't know.

She can't decide.

What if I am pregnant, she says.

To which Miranda replies,

"If you am, you am."

Clearly, this is ungrammatical English.

The correct English here would be,

If you are, you are, right?

Well, yes, that would, technically speaking,

be more correct.

But it would be boring

and it would also lack the same kind

of emphasis and impact as the way

that she says it has.

Both of these points, three and four,

are very much advanced English conversation technique

and they take learning time

and practise to get good at them

and getting them wrong is just gonna confuse

and make you seem like you're really crap at English.

But again, with time, practise

and while learning, you can get good at them,

and this is, incidentally, or not,

cuz' otherwise I'm wouldn't

be talking about this, something I'm

going to cover in immense detail

in my Small Talk Superhero,

Mastering the Art of Advanced English Conversation event,

live in London on June ninth.

It's a free hour, also, event,

at a beautiful little hotel in Farringdon, London.

We're gonna go deep into the art

of an advanced English conversation,

the language you need,

the technique that you need.

Everything that you need to know

about speaking extraordinary English

in English, well, conversation.

People that come along

are gonna get a nice, thick manual

to take away with them that has

all the notes and everything

of everything I'm gonna talk about,

packed, as well, with samples

of language, examples of phrases and expressions,

ways that you can actually do these things

that we're talking about.

You're gonna get a complete recording

of the event to take away with you,

so that you can review as many times

as you want, and you are going

to need to review because we're gonna be covering

a lot of very advanced stuff in this seminar,

and you're gonna get a 30 minute follow up call

with me on Skype so that if you have any questions

about actually implementing the stuff

and getting good at doing this stuff

in your own conversations, you

can do that and that's quite a bonus

cuz' I charge a lot of money

for my personal time.

But, people who come to the event

are gonna get that thrown in for free.

For more information, click on the link

in the description or head over

to SmallTalkSuperhero.com

Number five, if you thought points three

and four were a little bit advanced,

you might wanna set number five aside

for now because this is one of

the most advanced things that I've got

to talk about and something which we're

also gonna talk a lot about

at Small Talk Superhero, as well as

in next week's Extraordinary English Speakers lesson.

Members, pay attention to that.

Use empathy points.

Empathy points are what I call

the things that we say in conversation,

often subconsciously, most people,

at least native speakers aren't doing

this consciously, but the things

that we say in conversation to show

the person, I understand you.

To build rapport with that person.

Great example of this,

in next week's EES lesson, two

of our regular characters, Tacomy

and Sasha, Tacomy and Sasha know each other,

but they work in different departments

at the same company and it's been

a couple of months since they saw each other.

But, the both come out of different meeting rooms

at the same time and bump into each other

in the corrador.

They get chatting, catching up.

"How've you been?

"How's life," asks Sasha.

Tacomy replies, "Great, we've been busy

"with this and that.

"You know how it is."

This is the first empathy point

in the conversation.

"You know how it is."

You are familiar with this kind

of situation, right? Aren't you?

And it just bridges the gap

between two people.

Builds rapport, tells the other person,

my life is not so different to yours.

We are similar.

We are the same.

Later in the conversation, Tacomy talks

about how expensive furniture is.

"I know the feeling," responds Sasha.

Another empathy point.

It shows, I get you.

I understand you.

I've been in the same kind of situation.

Sasha then goes on to give Tacomy

some advice and talk about

some places he might be able

to get some more affordable furniture

and the conversation flows from there.

But the point is, we are constantly slipping

these little phrases and expressions,

these chunks of language into our conversations

to help build empathy and rapport.

So, there we have it.

Five tips for advanced English conversation.

Know that advanced English does not

an advanced English speaker make.

Be interesting, make your speaking pop.

Play with the language

and slip empathy points into your conversations.

Remember, we're doing Small Talk Superhero,

Mastering the Art of Advanced English Conversation

on June ninth, live in London.

Link in the description

or SmallTalkSuperhero.com.

We've got three places left

of the time of recording this.

Once they're gone, they are gone.

Cuz' the event room that we're using

is pretty small.

This, then, is me, Julian Northbook,

handing the baton over to you.

If you've got any questions

about speaking extraordinarily well

in English conversation,

ask them in the comments.

Hopefully, I'll see you

at Small Talk Superhero,

but regardless, I'll see you,

same time, same place tomorrow

in the next exciting, Doing English, Julian Northbrook,

whatever you wanna call them, video.

Thank you and good bye.

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